Letter # 56 - Jan Rubinghís former pastor in Wildervank moved to Michigan in 1879, as a widower, but has returned to Wildervank for a visit with his (new) wife.
Janís mother Mettje tells him of Janís plans to marry.
Wildervank, August 23, 1882
Dearly loved son and little daughter,
I take up my pen in order to write you a little letter in the hope that you and your little children may receive it in good health. Through the undeserved goodness of the Lord we also find ourselves right now in fairly good bodily health.
Perhaps recently you received some other news as well as the money and the last letter, to which I hope you responded promptly. We havenít yet received it because of the time needed. Today is Wednesday, August 2, ....., the news is that the money has been transferred. Then I hope that the amount that comes to you from Uncle Berend Rubing may also be sent over because the plan is that it will be paid out on August 25. They had told us that it could easily be held up a month or two because there was a claim laid on from Aunt Durkieís side.
I wrote you about that earlier, but perhaps itís been settled. So it may go faster now, but how much it will be, and if it will be more or less, is for us still a riddle. I fear that a lot will be deducted.
Dominee and Juffrouw Kuiper have left Wildervank again. They were here 4 or 5 days, but not by us but by the Schoolmaster. We can almost not understand how that happened because you wrote us that they planned to be by us. Even if they planned that all by themselves it would have been fine with us and we would have planned on it. But when they arrived he went to Derk Joosten and he had one thing or another about the congregation and they went to the Schoolmaster. They are great friends.
So Dominee was there about three hours and then he came to us. Joosten came along and you can imagine that we did not much care for that! People want to discuss (personal) things and prefer to be alone. Dominee and Juffrouw drank coffee with us and then we spoke a little with Dominee. It was good because we had not yet said anything about (your plan to) marry. It was good that we did. We think Dominee would also caution you, because he said that it would not be easy for you to find someone that would fit well with you. Sometimes I think that to find a woman so that all would go well is going to be difficult. Oh my dear, may the Lord make it all come out well! If my strength would permit it, I would so much want to come over to you!
Now I hope, my dear, that you will write us once how it goes with you and your little children and your wifeís family, whether you find it good and how it goes with the old people with whom you are now. You can imagine, my dear, that you are not often out of my thoughts and if you decide, my dear, to come over here with your children, we would have to search for something (for you), but it could also go well. We often do not know what is best. How our paths here are often in darkness! Oh that the Lord may be our Counsel and Guide on all our ways!
Today it is stormy weather here, but Detmer has come in. Hendrik and Griet were well as of last week, but her littlest one, Jonkje, was quite sick. I must give you her greetings. Does Dominee write you how things go here in the congregation? I believe that he had a letter in America from Wildervank. I wonder if he will share such things with you. They are now in ______. As long as they were in Wildervank they were just a little ___ on a ____; they were far too busy. We hope that if it is the Lordís will and we live that we will write you again. I must close by wishing for you the indispensable blessing of the Lord for soul and body. Now I remain your loving Mother,
M. J. Boer
Be greeted above all by Heichiena. If you can, write us back how it goes with you. Be greeted once more! You better just read this again, because I canít do it any better.