Letter # 51 - Janís mother Mettje extends her sympathy to Jan in the loss of his wife Jaantje, and describes an inheritance hopefully coming his way.


Wildervank, May 15, 1882

Dearly loved son and children,

We received your letter of April 17 in reasonably good bodily health, as well as the two previous letters, in which with heartfelt sympathy and commiseration we had to read the sad news concerning your dear Wife. You can understand, dear son, that your loss is for us also very great. It was always so precious to hear from her and to read of her history, though not to the degree that you feel it. Only one who has personally experienced it can understand that. And also for the dear children it is also so tragic. Also for her Mother and sisters and brothers. As I sit here to write, I try to imagine the entire tragic situation.

So my dear, where are you living now? Are you far distant from your children? May the Lord be your Counsel and Guide on your way. We often meet with disappointment in a second, when we least expect it. But the Lord says in his word, My ways are not your ways and my thoughts are not your thoughts. Now my dear one, may the Lord give you to understand that he is the trustworthy God who fulfills his promises: I will never leave you or forsake you. May he now be for you your refuge and strength. May he fill within you that empty place of your dear wife.

Please write us as to where you are now. Now, dear one, the money from your inheritance, I am informing you, must be paid out in this month of May and then, as I wrote, it is in the hands of the attorney, and then it goes again to Aunt Derkieís side, and her family is so scattered with nieces and nephews and some live far away, even in America. But now Tigter, the secretary, said that the estate would probably be paid out in the beginning or middle of June. But now Aunt Jaantje, married to Uncle Hendrik Rubing, as I wrote you earlier, died five weeks ago. You know that she had the right to use the profits of the estate but not the substance andÖ.. the death of Uncle Hendrik and now we heard that it would be paid out around that time. Now dear one, what more can I write about this? I just canít say whatís going to become of it all. I donít know if I wrote you all this earlier and also that some thought that they actually had more money, but so much is taken off. Eefke gets two thousand guilders, and Aunt Derkie gets her precious portion. It seems that strangers are getting the most.

Uncle Hendrik did marry again but he stood fast that his portion would go to his side (of the family). But now it will be the middle of June that Uncle Berend and Uncle Hendrik will be paid. I think that it will be five or six hundred guilders for both of them. If itís more then thatís good. We know that in the totalÖ..

Beyond that I donít know that any of the family is unwell. Our Marchien went on board (their ship) a week ago last Saturday. Detmer is with his ship in Hamburg. Hendrik and Griet are in Ulrum. We expect her to come home any day. They have been away 13 weeks and the maritime industry is in poor condition internally (in Holland) and externally.

Now my dear I must conclude. I could not tell whether or not you had received a letter from me. But I think that you will have received one and we will write you before the money is sent. We would like to have one from you as well. If I werenít so advanced in years I think I would come over to you. It would be so nice if your dear wife was still with you. But I would not like to arouse the sadness. May the Lord grant us to rest in his will. May He be our Counsel and Guide in all our ways. Now that I have wished for you the indispensable blessing of the Lord for soul and body, I am your loving Mother,

M J Boer

Above all you are greeted by Heichiena, and if you can, write us back soon.

One more hearty greeting.